kregg nance

Solutions & Resolutions

solutions and resolutions

I believe in using mediation and facilitated dialogue to help couples smooth the rough edges and reduce the friction points, so they can continue to stay together. Solutions for Couples is a process by which we sit together and brainstorm resolution to your issues. Over the course of a few hours, we can create a new relationship plan based on negotiated solutions to your problems. Unlike counseling, we will not be dealing with emotions as much as focused negotiation. Emotions may come up, and we will deal with them, but we will not get stuck going over the same problems with the hope that the other person will change. Solutions for Couples is meant to be fast, focused and outcome oriented...Read More...

About Me

Kregg Nance

First of all, I am quite proud to have been with my wife for 20 years. Theories and books are one thing, but living in the real world involves sticking with the one you love for a long time and learning the best ways to work it out.

I started out as an elementary school teacher, which as many of you probably know, gives a person lots of on the job mediation skills. I have done other work including casting TV commercials and a print/web design business.  I lived in Los Angeles for 27 years, Nashville for 10 years and many areas of the South as a child and finally now happily in Sarasota. I began to notice that conflict was evident in all jobs and places, so several years ago I decided to return to school and get a master's degree in conflict management from Lipscomb University. Through working with the Nashville Conflict Resolution Center and Sumner Mediation Services Victim Offender Reconciliation Programs, I mediated many couples who had gotten so far off track that they either get physical with each other or end up yelling to the point that the police are called. Judges would often send these couples to mediation to work out a plan that will keep them out of the courts. The mediation was the first time in years most of these couples had a chance to hear each other and work together to come up with a way to get their relationship back on track....Read More...

How is Solutions for Couples Different from Couples Counseling?

Solutions for Couples is forward thinking and works from the perspective of "from now on".  Counseling will often delve into your past before going forward. Counseling is a therapeutic process by which you sit with a trained and certified psychologist or counselor and talk about your feelings as it relates to what is not working with your partner and your relationship. The counselor will help you to deal with those feelings and work through the problems. Counseling tends to go deeper into each person to see what might be underneath the surface that is causing the problems to persist. It will often deal with your past and how it is affecting your life currently. It is a great process and very helpful if that is what you need. 

Solutions for Couples deals more with issues than feelings. We will work on strategic solutions to specific problems. It will be a focused, facilitated session geared toward coming up with here-and-now answers to ongoing friction points. The focus is on agreed upon solutions, not on each other. The idea isn't to face each other and blame the other person for the problem. We will work together and write down solutions to problems. Since you both care about each other and want to stay together, then the brainstorming is about solutions to stay together, not about how the other person is a problem.

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